Aimee Helps BFFs to Not Mean “Bickering, Feuding Friends”

Posted on June 18, 2012 by

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Dear Aimee, 

My best friend and I are fighting over the dumbest things, and now she won’t even talk to me. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Failing at Friendship

 

Dear Failing at Friendship,

Most best friends have the time period when their friendship is truly tested. This is a crucial time in a friendship. It is the time when you will find out whether the friendship is true or will just fade.

Every friendship goes through its own “war zone.” It is the time when the two people in the relationship are changing and growing up. This is the time when the friends find out if they are able to accept each other no matter who they become.

Sometimes, one friend is slowly building up his or her hate towards the other one. The little things he or she does may annoy the friend. This friend should have talked to the other when the little things happened so he or she would not build up resentment inside.

If this is occurring, maybe you and your friend should either take a long break from each other or stop talking all together. Sometimes, time changes people, and maybe you and your friend will change and become even closer at a later time.

If you are really angry at your friend, you might say something to him or her that you will regret later. Before you talk to the person and try to work things out, let your anger out in a healthier way, such as through sports. You can even write everything down in a journal so your anger is on paper and not within you.

This circumstance depends on your friend’s personality. Some people just need their space to cool off. If this applies to your friend, just give him or her space and let the person talk to you first. Don’t push him or her.

If your friend is the type of person who hides his or her feelings and needs that extra push for forgiveness, then you should try to talk to the person. Keep the conversation topics neutral, and avoid topics that might provoke a fight.

If your friendship is true and strong, which I hope it is, you and your friend will find a way to work it out.

Love,
Aimee

 

 

NOTICE: The authors of The Tiger Times advice column “Dear Aimee” are not trained counselors or mental health professionals.  The opinions offered in this column should only be undertaken with caution, a complete understanding of legal responsibilities, and the approval of parents and teachers.  The Tiger Times is not responsible for any repercussions or consequences ensuing from behavior inspired by this or any other advice issued herein.

 

 

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